Just Friends?... UH OH!

Except for one condition, there is no such thing as “just friends.” To explain the manner in which this theory is arrived mandates the examination of the following principles: Primarily, friendship implies commonality. That is, the qualities that your “friend” has, makes you feel comfortable, secure, and want to maintain and preserve that relationship (i.e. their personality is attracting). Secondly, friendship is based on openness, and openness promotes an even stronger bond. So if personality counts, but you are still “just friends”, what is really happening? This is the exception. One or both parties are not attracted to the other. If someone says to you, “Let’s just be friends”, that means one of two things. Either you are actually friends and they want to go no further because you are unattractive to them, or it is a cliché dismissal (in which case you probably didn’t know each other for very long before hand). In this light, friendship –in its true form- requires mutual un-attraction. Otherwise it is a fictitious concept, leaving one party void of what they desire. If you’re stuck in the friend zone, the object of your unrequited desire probably thinks that to be with you is to settle.